Pourquoi il est difficile de se déconnecter pendant la pandémie

As well as the threat to our health, we've had to cope with being separated from loved ones, adjust to working from home and listen to endless new announcements about how to curb the spread of COVID-19. The future is uncertain and as a consequence, it's becoming harder than ever to relax, which is taking its toll on our mental health.

What's making us so stressed?

Working from home

There are multiple reasons why we're finding it difficult to find some downtime at the moment. The way we work has changed and when we work from home, the boundaries between our professional and personal lives become blurred. It's far easier to spend longer at your desk, take fewer breaks and respond to emails when you should be relaxing. Instead of colleagues, we're working alongside partners, housemates and pets - and parents are trying to juggle work responsibilities with childcare.

Transition rituals

"Prior to the pandemic life was, of course, also very stressful but the current situation means that many people are experiencing multiple aspects of their lives from the same physical location," says Counselling Directory member Grace Warwick, a counsellor and psychotherapist.

"This can be problematic in terms of switching off. We have lost our transition rituals, whatever those may have been. The journey from the workplace to home allowed for a psychological transition out of work mode. Those who remained at home prior to the pandemic have also lost their private space to make calls or simply hear themselves think."

Constant bad news

Although we want to keep up-to-date with what's going on, the constant exposure to negative news and information can send our niveaux de stress levels through the roof too. There are also fewer opportunities to do the things we would normally do to relax, like meeting friends, going to the gym or heading out for dinner.

"At the moment, we are living through a situation where we have constant messages about the physical threat of COVID-19 and the subsequent economic, social and psychological consequences," Warwick says.

As a result of all these changes, it's possible some people are experiencing a physical response with the activation of the body's threat response, Warwick adds. More commonly known as the fight or flight response, our bodies enter a heightened state of alertness originally designed to enable escape.

"We are not designed to be able to be calm and switch off whilst this system is at work," she explains. "We scan for further evidence of threats, be they in our work life, personal relationships or even our hopes for the future. We become locked in a downward spiral of seeing threats."

Some of the impacts of living in this heightened state can be épuisement, being unable to relax and an inability to concentrate, as well as mauvais sommeil and feeling low in mood, anxieux and jittery. "Imagine being chased by a dinosaur - all the energy pumping through the body - the exact opposite of a great time to take a nap," Warwick says.

It can be easier said than done to relax, especially when things seem overwhelming. But there are several steps you can take to help you switch off.

Stick to routines and practise self-care

Keeping to a routine can make your days feel more structured, which can help us feel calmer and more secure. This might mean getting up at a certain time, going for a walk before you start work or taking a lunch break every day.

It's also important to make time for the things you enjoy, whether it's reading, faire de l'exercice or any other hobby. Make sure you take regular breaks from work, too.

"It can be helpful to introduce our own transition rituals into the day," Warwick says. "Self-care is essential; consider your body's needs - if it has been in fight or flight mode all day it may benefit from moving more. If exercise is not your thing, try a gentle walk or even a dance around the kitchen."

Take screen breaks

Since the COVID-19 pandemic hit, we've spent far more time on video calls and this can take its toll. Although it's hard to find an excuse not to join a Zoom party when you technically have nowhere else to be, sometimes it can help just to take a break from your laptop and do something else.

It's also important to turn the news off every so often to avoid feeling overburdened with the bad news rolling in. You can keep on top of what's happening without checking the news every ten minutes.

Pleine conscience

It can be easy to rush through life without stopping to notice much, especially if you're juggling work, childcare and other responsibilities. Paying more attention to the present moment, to your thoughts, emotions and the world around you, can improve your mental well-being. It doesn't take long either - many la pleine conscience la méditation sessions are just ten minutes long.

"Mindfulness routines can help enormously to calm the body and there are many wonderful apps to try," Warwick says. "But if calm isn't your thing go for distraction. The great thing about listening to an audiobook or watching a favourite programme is that it keeps moving forward and can carry the mind with it."

Connect with other people

Social connection to others outside of your daily circle is an important factor in mental health, even if it's harder to see people in person at the moment. It may be exhausting to commit to back-to-back video calls with friends and family, but it's easy to pick up the phone for a quick catch-up.

If you're struggling with anxiety, stress, low mood or another mental health issue, it's important to speak with your GP. They may refer you for talking therapy or recommend medication. The charity Mind offers confidential advice and support too.