Comment refuser une invitation de Noël

Learning to say 'no' to Christmas events is a great way to protect your santé mentale. Being in control of what parties and dinners you attend is the most effective way to avoid Christmas 'burnout' - physical and mental exhaustion caused by the niveaux de stress and pressure of constantly socialising over the holiday season.

Reasons for wanting to decline a Christmas party

Social anxiety

A total of 503 readers reported social anxiety around Christmas as their main reason for not wanting to attend a Christmas event from the survey. This is a form of l'anxiété that is specifically related to social situations, and it can affect anyone.

According to the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), you may be experiencing social anxiety before a Christmas celebration if instead of excitement, you feel sick, stressed, have an intense feeling of impending doom, are excessive, or have a quickened heart rate.

The pressure to have fun

If you've ever felt like going was expected but you won't have fun, 443 of our readers agree. Many of us feel the pressure to constantly meet with people over the season, regardless of the effect on our health, energy levels, or wallets.

Financial stress

La financial strain over Christmas, particularly in the context of the cost of living crisis, that can come from attending events and buying outfits, gifts, food and drink can be a big cause of stress. 379 readers have wanted to decline an invitation because of the costs.

Exhaustion

Exhaustion - or burnout - is also a common experience during this busy time of year, and was reported by 361 readers. For many of us, this is made worse by excessive drinking, whether this be at work Christmas parties or with family and friends. It's important to drink safely over the festive season to reduce mental and physical exhaustion.

Body image

Being self-conscious of our appearance can sometimes prevent us from enjoying the festivities even when we may want to. In particular, staying body positive over Christmas can be challenging when we're under pressure to dress up for Christmas parties and dinners.

Remember, it's OK and normal to fluctuate in weight a little over winter when we crave more comfort food.

Thinking about what you need this Christmas

Whatever your reasons, know that it's okay to turn down an invite this Christmas if you don't think you'll have fun. After all, Christmas celebrations are supposed to be enjoyable occasions.

Mental health charity Mind has the following advice for coping with Christmas¹:

• It's OK to prioritise what's best for you.

• Think about what you need, and whether you really need to do things if you're not looking forward to them.

• Set boundaries and say no to things that aren't helpful for you.

• Take time out from Christmas.

Learning to say no does not mean embracing your inner Christmas Grinch or Scrooge. In fact, turning down some invitations can also mean that you feel less overwhelmed and more energised to attend and have a better time at others. It's all about finding the right balance for you.

Top excuses for turning down a festive invitation

Out of 1,454 Patient.info readers, 73.5% admitted to having told a "little white lie" to avoid a festive celebration.

Fewer than 1 in 20 are happy to tell people if they're feeling burned out - a small amount compared to a recent survey which found that around 7 in 20 people experience burnout over the Christmas season².

Instead, most people feel more comfortable relying on handy excuses. Around 2 in 5 readers prefer to rely on the vague excuse "sorry, I won't be around". Using an extended family gathering was also the favoured excuse for more than 1 in 4 readers, followed by having special plans with a partner.

Whether you like to fall back on one of these popular "white lies", want to keep your excuses vague, or prefer to be honest about managing Christmas burnout, it's important to feel comfortable turning down events if they are causing you a lot of stress.

Pour en savoir plus

1. Mind: Christmas and mental health.

2. SWNS Digital: Holiday burnout is a real thing, study finds.